The first day of school is just around the corner! I think almost everyone has experienced back to school jitters at one point or another. Which helps us relate and empathize as parents, when our kids become nervous about going back to school. Even though each child responds a little differently about going back to school, there are ways we can address jitters and make the transition a little smoother. Predictability is key…the best way to calm back to school butterflies is to prepare kids as much beforehand as possible.
Find additional back to school tips and resources in our Back To School Guide.
Here’s a few tips for kids of all ages to make their fist day of school less intimidating:
Talk about the teacher.
A new year with new teacher(s) can be intimidating, especially if your child has some behavioral issues. Reassure them that the teacher is there to help and understands that many kids need extra support. Getting to know or meet their new teacher ahead of time may help ease some of your child’s anxieties. Be sure to attend all back-to-school nights or open houses where you can meet their new teacher(s).
Practice conversations and social situations.
A new school or classroom may spark concerns about meeting and making new friends. Practice chatting and making small talk, so your child has a few ideas of what to say if they’re feeling shy or nervous. Younger kids might benefit from some role playing. Have their stuffed animals talk about what their first day might look like.
Review their daily schedule.
For younger kiddos, a visual schedule could be helpful. Include what time they will get up, what time they will get on the bus, what time lunch is, etc. So, they have an idea of how their day will go. For older kids who will be switching classes, it’s helpful to walk their class schedule with them. Be sure to take it along for their back-to-school open house. If they have an A/B schedule, be sure to walk both schedules.
Let your child help in the planning.
Keeping kids involved and engaged with all back-to-school planning will help give them a sense of control. Ask them what they might need from you in emotional support or in practical planning. Emotional support could be helping them practice relaxation techniques and reducing stress at home. More practical planning is making sure they’re involved with picking out their school supplies or their first day of school outfit.
Be supportive.
It is normal for every child to react to going back to school in their own way. It can be tempting to apply your own experience to your child’s life. Although, you may have some insight into what they’re going through, remember that your child is not you. We all handle situations differently. Be calm and matter of fact. Listen and provide reassurance but try not to heighten anxiety with old memories and good intentions. What your child really needs to know, is that at the end of the day, you’ll be there waiting to hear how their first day went!
How do you deal with your kiddo’s first day of school jitters? If you have some helpful tips or insight, we’d appreciate hearing them!
